Empowerment

What Makes People Successful?

What Makes People Successful? Hey guys, I hope you are well. Recently, I wrote a post called 10 ways to distrupt your success, which states 10 reason why you are not successful in life or atleat where you want to be in life. In today’s post, we are going to have a chat about what makes people successful. Lately, I have been focusing on my blog and life. A lot has changed, which is a good thing and a bad thing. Luckily, I am the sort of person that welcome changes and I always try to work my way around it. However, I have reached a point where I ask specific questions like, how do people become successful, what makes people successful? Why Am I not successful?

What Makes People Successful?

Strategies for Success

  • What do successful people do that others don’t?
  • What motivates them to keep going?
  • Can anyone be successful?
  • What makes them different from others?

Attitude

Successful people are confident, honest and driven.

These are attitudes, not skill.

Our attitude can improve our skills, so we need to change our attitudes and become more focused and driven.

Our minds find it impossible to store all the information it receives in a day and so it deletes the unnecessary detail.  So it would be best if you changed your attitude to your business or your life.  You need to set goals, concentrate on knowing what you want to achieve and work towards achieving your goals.

But your goals need to be SMART goals:

  • Specific – know exactly what you want.
  • Measurable – be able to follow the progress
  • Achievable – be within your capabilities
  • Realistic – be possible to do
  • Time – you must take the time to do it

You need to know exactly what your goals are, be able to set a plan and follow it, be achievable for you (e.g. don’t attempt to be a brain surgeon if you can’t stand the sight of blood), be possible to do (e.g. don’t try and think you can fly). You must be prepared to put in the time to achieve your goals or have the time to do it.

Seeing Things As They Are

Some days start tremendous and get better while others start wrong and get worse.

Why is this?

It all depends on your attitude and what you’re focusing on.  If you’re in a bad mood, then everything will seem bad because you’re focusing on it.

It’s just the same with your goals.  If you focus on missing them, then you will.

You see, our brain never hears the word “won’t” or “don’t”. That’s why children always do what you tell them not to.  They never hear the word “don’t”.

So if you focus on not missing your goal by thinking “I won’t fail”, then you will.  Instead, tell yourself, “I will succeed”.

Forget Failure

Children learn faster than adults because they have no fear of ridicule or failure.

Children always look on the bright side:

  • Kids are curious – Adults are cynical.
  • Kids love puddles – Adults hate rain.

Babies learn to walk by setting a goal and working towards it.  When they fall, they adopt a different strategy, such as holding onto the furniture, and then they keep going and learning.  We should take a leaf out of a baby’s book.

Never say “I can’t do this.” Just take notice of what’s not working and change strategies.  This will move you closer to your goal.

What else stops you from achieving our goals?

Beliefs

Your beliefs can hinder you or help you, but they can only help you if you understand that they are only beliefs. Events don’t shape your life. It’s your interpretation of these events that shape your life.

Your beliefs and certainties have the power to expand or destroy your true potential. Beliefs are limiting, so it’s essential to understand that they are only beliefs and not reality.

The past does not equal the future.  Just because you haven’t achieved something in the past doesn’t mean you can’t reach it in the future.

It would help if you questioned your beliefs and where they come from.

Remember, you can change – but not if you believe you can’t.

Focus on what your limiting beliefs have stopped you from achieving. Change whatever is limiting you. If you believe you’ll win, then you will.

Remember that you don’t have to be 100% successful in everything you do to be successful.  Every step you take to achieve your goal is success.  And if something goes wrong, chalk it up to experience – we learn from our experiences.

Things You Can Do Right Now

Always ask yourself:

  • What did I do well today?
  • What did I learn today?
  • What am I going to do differently tomorrow?

Never avoid failure.

Stride for success

Keep trying different strategies. We slump when depressed and sit tall when we feel successful.  Adopting these postures can affect our attitude and state of mind.

How you feel on the inside can affect how you look on the outside, and this can influence people around you.  What you focus your mind on affects your body language.  Therefore you can change your state of mind by changing your posture.  So when you feel depressed, adopt the upright posture of a successful person.

People and circumstances can also affect your state of mind, but this can be controlled.  Instead of giving up letting external factors control your state of mind, adopt a positive attitude, stand tall and refuse to be influenced by negative things around you.

This is easier said than done because our responses are learned, and our unconscious mind cannot always distinguish what is and isn’t real.

For instance; if you raise your hand to your mouth and imagine you’re sucking a lemon, you’ll wince.  The lemon may be imaginary, but your mind has a conditioned response which makes you wince.

Therefore, never forget:

  • If you think you can’t achieve something, then you won’t.
  • If you think you can achieve something, then nothing will stand in your way.

I hope you enjoyed that.

Talk soon

18 Comments

  1. Sarah says:

    Attitude is definitely HUGE for success. Having the attitude to keep going, work hard, have motivation is very important.

  2. This is such a helpful and inspiring post. I would love to interview you for a blog post in October if you are interested and have time for that.

    1. Soniasblog says:

      Hey Iris, I will be honoured to take part. Send me a mail on Facebook.

  3. Using SMART goals have definitely helped me at work.

  4. These are so true. I think not being afriad of failure is super important

  5. This is so true; having the right mindset is key to success. Needed to read this today, thank you for sharing.

  6. Monica Simpson says:

    Oh if only we adults could embrace failure the way babies do. When they’re learning to walk and they fall down, they don’t give up. They don’t even see it as failure. Such a beautiful reminder on how to change our attitudes!

  7. Totally agree! It’s so important to get caught up in what we perceive is a failure. Instead we need to ask “What can I learn from that? “What can I tweak or change to reach my goal?” Great insights!

  8. totally agree, its all in that mindset

  9. I totally agree, especially about mindset. Having a clear, positive mindset really gets you going in the right direction!

  10. These are all great, my favorite is attitude! You have to have the right mindset and positive attitude to be successful at anything.

  11. Thank you so much. Seriously I was just thinking about this today. I was starting to question my worth and why i was working so hard for nothing. But you reminded me to get my mind set back to where it needs to be. Thank you

  12. I love that success can mean different things to different people.

  13. Lourdes says:

    I really needed to read these today

    1. This is such a Motivational post, I really need hear this during this situation when we are getting only negative things.

  14. This is great advice! Having the right mindset definitely helps.

  15. Hey, I just wanted to say that this is a great article. I’m really big on setting goals but, I never really make them “SMART” So, your advice is truly helpful and I can’t wait to apply it.

    1. Soniasblog says:

      Thank you so much for reading. I am glad ‘SMART’ helped.

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