Tips to Control Your Anger. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a few tips on controlling anger. All of us get angry. Some of us get angry very often. Some can control anger. Some of us express our anger freely, whereas some suppress it. Why do we get angry? Is there any way to control the anger? How to do that?
My Experience with Anger
There was time that I experience anger. Not lash out type of anger, just anger. Anger at everything and everyone, including myself. I just shut everyone out because I did not want to want see or speak to anyone. There was so much negativity going on and I felt the only way out was to shut everyone out. After a while and watching a lot of motivational videos on Youtube, praying and crying my eyes out. I decided that I wanted to be successful and use my anger and all the negativity around as a form of motivation to work harder for success and for a better lifestyle for my daughter and me.
Tips to Control Your Anger
We get angry when we are stopped doing something
Or when we don’t get our way. We get mad when our desires are not fulfilled, or when people don’t agree to our viewpoint. Many times, we get angry when we find our views at significant variance with others and are not able to understand the other picture and disagree with that.
List your friends
Think about a situation and imagine the reactions. For example, let us say that the problem is this – your friend is sitting in a restaurant, and someone spills something hot on his/her hands unintentionally. Now imagine the reactions from your list. You will write responses that will vary greatly. You will imagine a friend of yours laughing it off and another friend calling the manager and making a big scene. The reactions are different because they are controlling their anger differently. How?
Some of us never take things very seriously.
So they don’t get angry over small things at all. That is the nature of these people. Can we use any techniques to control anger? Let us examine. Do you react immediately, or think about what went wrong before responding? Those of us who respond spontaneously, get angry fast. Those who think about it before responding can understand and control their emotions better. Why not count up to ten before reacting?
Understanding others viewpoint helps in many situations.
As we have our viewpoint, so do others. Why try to enforce our thoughts on them? Why not at least try and understand what they think and why? If your boss is angry with you, you need not react immediately. Give some time and think about all the possible reasons, and you may find the answer to his anger. If at the end you realize that his/her rage was unjustified, you chose to forgive and not react angrily.
Emotions, such as anger can be controlled.
It needs reflection.
It needs the practice to exercise restraint.
Remember, by winning over your anger; you will become a better person. Make your anger your slave and not get enslaved by it.
I hope you have found this very useful. For more article like this, check out How to Remove Toxic people from your life.