Thank you, Next – Five Things My Exes Taught Me. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing five things my exes taught me. I have recently ended a seven months relationship that I thought would lead to something serious, and from my previous post, How To Deal With A Break-Up, you would know that I love to write my feelings.
Thank you, Next – Five Things My Exes Taught Me
It’s Not Your Fault
When a relationship ends, there is simply nothing you can do about it. The most common thing we all do when a relationship ends is blame ourselves, making us feel guilty and want to try to make it work by asking for a second chance. Sometimes people change when they finally know what they want, sometimes people are not ready for what you want, and sometimes people don’t know what they want and take advantage of the fact you know what you want. It’s not your fault. There’s nothing wrong with you. You just picked the wrong partner.
Nothing Is Yours Unless It Has Your Name On It
This will forever stay with me related to anything in life and doesn’t have to relate to relationships. However, we are talking about relationships here so I will explain. In other words, if he has not put a ring on it, paid your bride price or made some commitment to you, he doesn’t belong to you. There’s no point in dating a man/woman for one whole year without doing anything to show some commitment to the significant other.
Time is too Precious to waste it on someone who does not want to commit.
Communication Is Key
Without Communication, you have nothing. There is no trust, and there’s no loyalty, there’s no love – you have nothing. It is advisable to date someone with the same interests as you. If you like travelling – get someone who’s into travellin. You like music – get someone who’s into dating. If you love fashion – get someone who’s into fashion. If you like politics – get someone into politics too.
Love Is Real
I don’t care what anyone has told you about ‘Love’ – it’s real and powerful. It’s your choice to give and take it or not. Sometimes, love is so powerful that if you decide you want to take it and not give back, you will give more love than what you are getting and not realise it.
If You Have To Wonder If The Man/Woman You Are In A Relationship With Is Into you, They’re Not.
You can Have It All
Before my recent failed relationship, I finally felt that I had it all. A daughter, a man, a home and a great new job. Like this was all I ever wanted. Being in this relationship, I realise it doesn’t matter how you look or what you have or don’t have. It doesn’t matter what situation you are in. You can have it all. There is a man for every woman.
Last But Not Least – Put In The Work.
In this relationship, I did things I never thought I could do for a man again, but somehow I found myself doing it. Trust me, it is tough to find time to work in a relationship when you have a child. Whether cooking a romantic dinner, finding time to go on date nights, struggling to find a babysitter and affording it, saving money and time you should be spending on yourself. Still, you must find a balance if you want a relationship to work. Boy, it wasn’t easy. And was it all worth it?? I don’t know.
I hope you enjoyed that.