Tend To Your Own Happiness. Hey everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be encouraging you to tend to your own happiness and share four easy steps you can practice. Many of us wish for more happiness. We want to lead happier, more fulfilling lives, but the sad truth is that so many of us that desire more happiness spend much more time tending the happiness of others than we do tending to our happiness.
Tend To Your Own Happiness
Happiness does not simply happen. A person does not suddenly stumble across happiness. Happiness is the result of careful tending, and a person who wishes to be happy must tend to their happiness.
Tending to your happiness does not need to be difficult, complex, or time-consuming. It can be as simple as this four-step formula:
- Trash your unhappy thoughts and trends
- Envision yourself as happy
- Needs fulfilled
- Desires fulfilled
You are making yourself a happier person. It really can be that simple.
Step one is an important one because unhappiness is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Many people are unhappy because they don’t believe they deserve to be happy and lock themselves into behaviour patterns that make them sad. It would be best if you trashed your unhappy thoughts and trends.
Look inside yourself and find out what (and when) you think about things that make you unhappy. Is there a specific time of day that you tend to be more unhappy? Is there a particular task or routine that seems to feed your unhappiness? Or is there something that you do or think that contributes to your unhappiness?
Once you identify the areas of your life that cause you unhappiness, you can find ways to confront it and combat it. Sometimes you can make a change to avoid the trouble spot altogether, but find ways to make it less complicated on yourself when that’s not possible. Adjust your schedule or your expectations if that will make things better. Recruit help when you can. Just easing off one task or freeing up a few hours can make a huge difference in your attitude. When all else fails, and you can’t change or share something unpleasant, then don’t hesitate to reward yourself for accomplishing it. Knowing you will be awarded can sometimes make complex tasks more palatable.
Step two is critical.
Some people have been unhappy for so long they have forgotten what happiness looks like and feels like. Envisioning yourself happy can help create the happiness habit. Thinking about your happiness will also help counterbalance times when you are unhappy or working through unpleasant tasks. Think about difficult times as simply stepping stones to happy times.
Step three cannot be overlooked.
If your basic needs for food and sleep are not met, you will not focus on happiness. It is not impossible for hungry, sleep-deprived people to be happy, but most humans are a lot less likely to be satisfied in that state. Food and sleep provide fuel for both body and mind, and the healthier your body and mind, the better chance you have to achieve happiness.
Step four is the final step to achieving happiness.
What do you desire? What do you wish for, and what do you dream about? Allow yourself to dream big but don’t overlook tiny wishes and desires. While a two-week cruise might be great, just having a weekend at a local resort might give you the rest, relaxation and escape you might need. Or perhaps you’d like to lose 30 or 50 pounds but finding a way to work in some exercise a few times a week might give you more immediate gratification while eventually accomplishing your long-term goal.
Make a list of your desires, wishes, and dreams — big and small — and keep that list someplace handy.
- What can you do this week to achieve a small goal?
- What can you do this month to take a step toward a big goal?
Sometimes you don’t even need to accomplish your goals to achieve happiness. Sometimes it is simple enough to know that you are working toward your dreams. Often happiness is found on the path to our dreams. Often happiness is created while we strive to make our wishes come true.
You can make yourself a happier person, but you must tend to your happiness.
We often spend more time tending to our outer possessions than we do tending to our inner ones. You can make a few changes to your life to find a better balance and help create more personal happiness.
I hope you enjoyed that.