Life as a single mum, full-time student and working part-time. Hello everyone, how are we all today? In today’s post, I want to talk about life as a single mother, a full-time student, and working part-time. And, of course, How I handled it. So basically, I stayed organised and completed my two-year course at college.
If you don’t know, I decided to go back to studies in 2017 when my daughter was three years old. Despite being a single mother with no support from anywhere, I had to look around at my lifestyle, and I decided I wanted to do better for my daughter. I wanted her to be proud of me and show her that it doesn’t matter what situation you find yourself in. Remember, you are the one in the driver’s seat. Trust me, it was not easy, but it was worth it.
Life As A Single Mum, Full-Time Student and Working Part-time
To even apply for college, I had to change my mindset. I had a lot of doubt that I would be a good mother, and the situation was filled with so much negativity, I ultimately felt useless and worried that there was no way out. However, I still decided to go and seek help. The rest is history. It would help if you had a clear and focused mindset. Your either in until the end of your out. More important, you must be a little open to other options, too, just in case your plans don’t work.
I already knew what I wanted, and I had a very determined mindset and was ready to do whatever it took. I took some time to plan out how things were going to go and made up plans A, B, C, D, E etc. When I was a student, I had a diary and was constantly looking at it and making changes as things changed as well. For example, in a week I had 3 days at college, an assessment to prepare for, a doctor’s appointment, a ballet class for Sasha, a meeting with my officer and working part-time at the weekends. It was a lot of work, but I stayed focused with a clear mindset and because of that, I was able to set some priorities.
Although I had many things happening in a week, my daughter was my number one priority. I didn’t care if I had class today, if my daughter was sick and there was no one to look after her, I’d stay at home, just like every other parent would. I also made school and work a priority too. In that case, I made certain decisions that would affect my ability to stay focused on what I was doing.
Not going to lie, there were sometimes when I felt less motivated. Especially when I was struggling with understanding course work and having low finance, however, I self-motivated myself by reminding myself of why I was doing this, and I watched motivational videos on YouTube. I even had to stay up late at night to study while my daughter was sleeping.
Commitment and Dedication
The fact that Sasha was doing great with her developments at Nursery helped me stay committed to the plan. I showed my dedication to the lifestyle by making sure I turn up in class every day and even on the days that I was off, I would still visit the library to study. I did not have a lot of friends, but that’s okay because I was not there to make friends. When I was struggling with my coursework, I asked for help. I spoke with my North East Sensory Services officer when I felt lonely and wanted to give up. And I just kept going. Next thing you know 1 year has gone, then it was 2 and a year had gone by. And now I’m working at a job that I have always dreamt of and my daughter is still healthy and happy. Which was everything I planned for?
The choice is yours. If you want to change your life, there is support, b, but you have to. You got a dream. Fight for it. Invest your time and energy in it. And always believe that something extraordinary is about to happen. Life is hard, but it doesn’t have to be hard for you.
I hope you enjoyed that.