How to make friends as a single parent. Hey, guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I am going to share with you 5 simple ways to make friends as a single parent. Ever since I found out about my pregnancy, I have found it difficult to make new friends and to build a long-lasting relationship. Maybe this is because I am afraid of being judged, maybe I do not know how to trust or who to trust. Or maybe I just feel content in my environment. Everybody’s circumstances are different and that is fine.
How to Make Friends as a Single Parent
Why do you want to make friends?
It is very important to think about why you want to make new friends as a single parent. At the end of you have a lot going on in your household. In this case, you might want friends to have an adult conversation, this may be due to loneliness, or you just want to build a long-lasting friendship. Why do you want to make new friends, write it down?
What kind of friend are you looking for?
This is another important point because remember the type of people you want to bring into your life will become an influence on your child’s life. Children are easy to build a connection with. All you have to do is smile and say hi to them – that’s it.
So you must be very careful when choosing your friends. Either you a long term friendship or just someone to play with once in a while. That depends on your personality too. At the end of the day, you will find it very difficult to keep the friendship going because you are a single mum. Unless the person you make friends with understands what you are going through.
Making Friends as a Single Parent
Make Yourself Available
The first thing you need to do is to make yourself available. You have tried to come up with a schedule that fits you and your children, as well as enables you to have enough time for casual things like meets up, brunches, night out, day outs, shopping trips etc. This can be done but you have to work it out in a way that doesn’t affect your relationship with your child. It doesn’t have to be regularly every single week, it could be once or twice in a month. Or just have a telephone chat every other day just to catch up with each other.
Join a Club
This is the most popular way single parents’ meets new people and make friends. We have the luxury of joining a group that has been designed for us only. We have mothers and child groups, parents groups, etc. Although you don’t have to join them, you can join groups that are based on interests, hobbies and learning new skills. This could be a gym membership, reading groups, life drawing, yoga, etc. Join something.
Before you had your baby, you were just Miss Mary-Jane Jackson, who works full time as a Managing Director for a Top Nosh Company. Free to do whatever you want and go where you want to go. Now you are a single mother, working hard to provide for your child. And you would do anything to get a nap for just 2 hours. You have also listened to ‘Baby sharks doo doo doo, doo doo doo,’ a million times and knows all the words to every song in Disney movies on the planet. Everything you do now must involve your child.
You are no longer free to just wake up and leave the house to a different country. Trust me, I have tried that before and it did not work. I thought I could take my daughter to my mum place for a week and I just go somewhere to spend a well-deserved ‘me time’. Not only will you be worried about your child, but you will be on the phone calling and stalking the person who has your child. And that’s normal. I am not saying you should introduce yourself as a Paranoid Single parent. This is just a backgrounds story to have in mind. How you introduce yourself, it’s up to you.
It is important to know you are living by example to your child. Therefore whatever you do, remember your child is watching you. The best lesson you could ever teach your child is to love themselves as they are and people will follow. In short, be a leader, not a follower. You can demonstrate this by being your true self when you are around people, whether it is at an event or home. It is always the best way to know who likes you and
These days we are all consumed by the internet and social media. Which makes it easier to meet people who have the same interest as you and can relate to your circumstances. No one out there is perfect. But if you can relate to another person via their personality, the energy and atmosphere they bring into your life then there is a good chance that friendship may last longer.
I hope you have enjoyed that post. Making new friends is all about confidence. Confidence to meet new people and say hi, without fear of being judged. Just like everything else in life, friendships also require time, commitment, and hard work to make it work.
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