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How to Make Friends as a Single Parent

How to make friends as a single parent. Hey, guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I am going to share with you 5 simple ways to make friends as a single parent. Ever since I found out about my pregnancy, I have found it difficult to make new friends and to build a long-lasting relationship. Maybe this is because I am afraid of being judged, maybe I do not know how to trust or who to trust. Or maybe I just feel content in my environment. Everybody’s circumstances are different and that is fine.

How to Make Friends as a Single Parent

Why do you want to make friends?

It is very important to think about why you want to make new friends as a single parent. At the end of you have a lot going on in your household. In this case, you might want friends to have an adult conversation, this may be due to loneliness, or you just want to build a long-lasting friendship. Why do you want to make new friends, write it down?

What kind of friend are you looking for?

This is another important point because remember the type of people you want to bring into your life will become an influence on your child’s life. Children are easy to build a connection with. All you have to do is smile and say hi to them – that’s it.

So you must be very careful when choosing your friends. Either you a long term friendship or just someone to play with once in a while. That depends on your personality too. At the end of the day, you will find it very difficult to keep the friendship going because you are a single mum. Unless the person you make friends with understands what you are going through.

Making Friends as a Single Parent

Make Yourself Available

The first thing you need to do is to make yourself available. You have tried to come up with a schedule that fits you and your children, as well as enables you to have enough time for casual things like meets up, brunches, night out, day outs, shopping trips etc. This can be done but you have to work it out in a way that doesn’t affect your relationship with your child. It doesn’t have to be regularly every single week, it could be once or twice in a month. Or just have a telephone chat every other day just to catch up with each other.

Join a Club

This is the most popular way single parents’ meets new people and make friends. We have the luxury of joining a group that has been designed for us only. We have mothers and child groups, parents groups, etc. Although you don’t have to join them, you can join groups that are based on interests, hobbies and learning new skills. This could be a gym membership, reading groups, life drawing, yoga, etc. Join something.

Reintroduce yourself

Before you had your baby, you were just Miss Mary-Jane Jackson, who works full time as a Managing Director for a Top Nosh Company. Free to do whatever you want and go where you want to go. Now you are a single mother, working hard to provide for your child. And you would do anything to get a nap for just 2 hours. You have also listened to ‘Baby sharks doo doo doo, doo doo doo,’ a million times and knows all the words to every song in Disney movies on the planet. Everything you do now must involve your child.

You are no longer free to just wake up and leave the house to a different country. Trust me, I have tried that before and it did not work. I thought I could take my daughter to my mum place for a week and I just go somewhere to spend a well-deserved ‘me time’. Not only will you be worried about your child, but you will be on the phone calling and stalking the person who has your child. And that’s normal. I am not saying you should introduce yourself as a Paranoid Single parent. This is just a backgrounds story to have in mind. How you introduce yourself, it’s up to you.

Be Yourself

It is important to know you are living by example to your child. Therefore whatever you do, remember your child is watching you. The best lesson you could ever teach your child is to love themselves as they are and people will follow. In short, be a leader, not a follower. You can demonstrate this by being your true self when you are around people, whether it is at an event or home. It is always the best way to know who likes you and

Relatability

These days we are all consumed by the internet and social media. Which makes it easier to meet people who have the same interest as you and can relate to your circumstances. No one out there is perfect. But if you can relate to another person via their personality, the energy and atmosphere they bring into your life then there is a good chance that friendship may last longer.

I hope you have enjoyed that post. Making new friends is all about confidence. Confidence to meet new people and say hi, without fear of being judged. Just like everything else in life, friendships also require time, commitment, and hard work to make it work.

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14 Comments

  • LuLu B - Calabrisella Mia

    This post offers really great tips – that can apply to anyone! I moved to a new city as an adult and although its a small city I find it’s difficult to meet new people. You really have to put yourself out there and be more open to meeting people. I think joining a club is one of the best ways to meet people – because you are not only spending time with them but you have similar interests!

  • Live Learn Better

    I have met a lot of single mum who are deeply lonely and all they just needed was someone to discuss nothing with.
    They have all they needed to survive physically but missing out on the mental part. These are great tips and wish everyone in this situation all the very best.

  • Ivana Mearns

    It can be very hard for parents to find new friends, whether they are single or married. It’s a good idea to have a think about how to go about finding new friends, I do find your tips very helpful.

  • Roberta - adventurous miles

    I think meeting new people and becoming friends is hard for anyone, let alone a single parent. But once you go out there and expose yourself to new opportunities and friendships it get’s easier. We just need to overcome the awkwardness around it. Great post, this is very helpful for any single parent out there 🙂

  • Kelly Martin

    It’s hard to meet new friends even without kids so it must be even harder as a single parent. These are some great ideas for making new friends.

  • Lindsay Brown

    I love all of your tips and suggestions here. I have found it so difficult to make meaningful friendships after having kids becasue, like you said, after the baby comes that’s pretty much the end of your thought process for a good long time. It’s so important to still put yourself out there and go to the mommy groups and remind yourself that you are still a person not only a mom! Great post, thanks for sharing!

  • jerry godinho

    some of my closest friends are single moms. Not sure why that word ‘single’ moms came about. They are just moms and great at it and the sacrifice they put into it. We humans were born and meant to connect with one another and need it for our emotional, mental, physical and psychological health. A great open article about how to connect with other mothers.

  • Stephanie S

    I think it is so important for a single parent, or even a married parent to have friends. I really think we need those interactions, and it just helps getting out and being around people you can relate to. Great post! I will share this with a few of my single parent friends. 🙂

  • Britt K

    This is a great post. I recently made friends with a single parent and she was telling me how challenging it was for her to meet new people. Her biggest struggle, she felt, was that she didn’t have anything to talk to people about. I wish all single mothers out there could see that they are more than just a mother – they are incredible people worthy of love on their own accord as well!

  • Trish Veltman

    When I was a young, single parent, before the days of mum’s groups on FB!, it was so hard to make friends easier with other parents – babysitting was always an issue! These are great suggestions to help.

  • Scott DeNicola

    This is one area where the internet may have actually helped people. There are so many groups online where you are able to meet like people if you’re willing to put yourself out there. Other single moms especially are looking for other single moms to spend time with and to arrange play dates for their children. I’m not a single parent but my wife and I have met so many other couples and neighbors through our children’s relationships. Great advice!

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