How to Find Your Real Self Again. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a few tips on how to find your authentic self again. I am sure many of us have gone through something or are going through something, such as the Global Pandemic, that has had a massive effect. In the past two years, we have been through hell and back. Sometimes we get lost in ourselves because of the current situation we are individually in. It gets difficult to start all over again when the event is over. I can relate to this as I spoke about the five events that shaped me into who I am today.
How to Find Your Real Self Again
It seems odd that you could be anything other than who you are on the surface. But from the time we talk, we’re programmed to “fit in”. We conform to please the people we love and who love us. But sometimes, you must suppress what you know is the natural person inside.
And yet, your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have. Without a healthy relationship with yourself, it’s practically impossible to have healthy relationships with anyone else.
If you’re ready to get re-acquainted with someone you haven’t seen in a while – yourself – start with these five ideas to help you rediscover the real you.
Quiet the noise in your head
You know those voices well, constantly nagging you to pick up the dry cleaning, talk to the school teacher, juggle the bills, schedule the vet, and keep the boss happy. It will be impossible to hear anything above the din with all that noise. This MUST be the first step. How do you do that? Setting up systems, simplifying, and establishing enough extras in your life allow you to operate from a position of abundance instead of lack.
Practice thinking about yourself in healthy ways
To do that, you must first believe that you are valuable and your Real Self has something to offer the world. Since you talk to yourself more than everyone else in your life combined –that’s a lot of talks!—it’s up to YOU to establish healthy communication in your thinking. Consciously listen to how you talk to yourself; write down the unhealthy things you say; challenge them; and replace them with facts. Self-Talk: “You never do anything right.” Challenge: “Of course, I do things right. I did (example) right. I did (example) right. This time, I just made a mistake. I’ll learn from it and have better success next time.”
Listen to your heart.
Sounds easy enough, but by the time we’re adults, most of us have stopped listening to our hearts and go only with our heads. Those two must reconnect to find your authentic self. It’s easy to become accustomed to thinking about your feelings instead of feeling them. Instead of asking yourself what you think about something, ask why it’s essential.
Be careful not to get hung up on a specific goal.
What you’re after is a feeling — respect, love, appreciation – as opposed to the company car or a great guy/girl. Please keep an open mind to the senses, and be willing to adjust the methods you use to achieve them. Determine not just your goals but how it satisfies who you are. The mask will come off, and your authentic self will shine through.
A person you can know and love – you! – is waiting for you to take the time to listen and understand and accept. When you accept your Real Self again, you’ll make more intelligent choices, which will stick because they fit who you are. Now, that’s what you’re looking for.
I hope you enjoyed that.
“Love yourself” – This is my saying this year. Nothing else matters if you can’t love yourself. I’m learning how to appreciate me, celebrate me and thanking me. No more negative thoughts in my head that I’m not good enough or I can’t do that.
I love how simple and practical your view and advice on issues are – and this post is no exception!
I have been all following all the terms for years. But self love is something beyond my head, I’ll try to love myself now.
Such a great article + advice!
Love this article. As moms, we tend to lose our identity for a while. Thank you for sharing these awesome tips!
These are such solid, practical tips to grounding and finding one’s self!
I feel like the pandemic is a great time for reflection and figuring out who we are. More time to think about things and less commitments.
Yes girl!!! I wish I knew this years ago when I questioned everything and lived for everyone else!
This was a great article!
I have to admit that this pandemic brings our lives on a rollercoaster ride and these tips will definitely helping me to rediscover myself again.