Discomfort Is Necessary For Your Success. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will explain why discomfort is necessary for your success. Most people don’t know much about committing to their life dreams and goals because they don’t keep most of their agreements. Most people add a silent, unconscious modifying phrase to all their commitments: “…as long as it’s not uncomfortable.”
Discomfort Is Necessary For Your Success
They don’t realise that discomfort is one of the values of commitments, one reason for committing in the first place. Within us is an automatic goal-fulfilment mechanism. When we commit to something, we tell the goal-fulfilment mechanism, “I want this.” The goal-fulfilment mechanism says, “Fine, I’ll arrange for that.” And it does. Among the things it uses – individually or collectively are:
It looks to see what lessons we must learn to have our goal, and then it arranges for those lessons. Sometimes, these lessons come in pleasant ways (we notice an article on what we need to know in a magazine, a conversation with a friend reveals something to us, or a song on the radio has a line that tells us something important). At other times, the lessons are unpleasant (someone we must listen to – a boss, for example – tells us “in no uncertain terms” what we need to know, or we get sick, and the doctor tells us what we need to do “or else”).
The goal-fulfilment mechanism sees what is in the way of us having what we want and removes it. Again, sometimes this can be pleasant (if the goal is a new car, someone offers us an excellent price for our old car) or unpleasant (our car is stolen, totalled or breaks down altogether).
To have something new, our comfort zone must be expanded to include that new thing. The bigger the new thing, the greater the comfort zone must extend. And comfort zones are most often expanded through discomfort.
When people don’t understand that being uncomfortable is part of the process, they use it as a reason not to do so. Then they don’t get what they want. We must learn to tolerate the discomfort to grow.
This growth process is known as the “grist for the mill.” When making flour in an old stone mill, it is necessary to add gravel to the wheat before grinding it. This gravel is known as a grist. The small stones that make up the grist rub against the grain as the mill wheel passes over them. The friction causes the wheat to be ground into a fine powder. The grain would only be crushed if it weren’t for the grist. To grind wheat fine enough for flour requires a grist. After the grinding, the grist is sifted out, and only the flour remains.
I hope you enjoyed that.
I believe in the saying that you’ll never grow inside your comfort zone. Those are some great tips and will definitely keep them in mind.
This is hard for me because I hate being uncomfortable, but it is necessary for sure.
Kathy Kenny Ngo
I think it’s not necessarily discomfort but change and sadly, most of us feel discomfort when there is change.
I agree with what you tell here, Sonia. I also experience this ‘our comfort zone must be expanded to include that new thing’. Say for instance, I want promotion at work, I feel that I need to do more than just my usual 9 to 5 job, by staying late and go beyond my duty to ensure that I can get what I want.