Lifestyle,  Mindset

Change Your Mind and The Rest Will Follow

Change your mind, and the rest will follow! Hey everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be talking about changing your mind, and the rest follow. It’s been a busy couple of days. In fact, the whole month has been busy with lots of mix emotions. However, I believe things are starting to calm down a little bit. My daughter is back in school. Good news is she is doing well, and she’s happy to be back. Obviously, there has been a lot of changes in the school and how it operates due to Covid-19.

Few Changes includes:

  • Parents are not allowed in the School Building.
  • It would be best if you practised social distancing by standing at least 2 meters apart.
  • You are not allowed to take the kids into the play area while dropping off.
  • Parents should wait outside the school fence until the teachers take the kids.
  • Students are divided into small groups before entering the building.

It felt a bit weird that I have to stand outside the building and the school fence when I’m dropping her off and picking her up too. It felt like it’s a prison because the fence is wired fence and we the parents have to wave over the fence to say goodbye. So I wouldn’t say I like the feeling of standing outside the fence and keep an I on my child from far.

I mean, what if she gets hurt? Am I not allowed to go in and see if she’s okay? It’s just a weird feeling. I guess we have trust that our kids are in safe hands. It just makes me wonder, ‘How Sasha is coping with these new changes in the school?’ I have asked Sasha every day, ‘how was school?’ and her reply was ‘It was great, there was a lot of hand washing though’. I was worried about her, but so far, it seems the school has everything under control.

Are you ready for 2021?

We are coming to the end of October, and that means we only have less than 2 months left in 2020. How are you all feeling? Are you ready to take on the new year and embrace the changes? Are you ready for the new year of change?

Not going to lie, after everything that 2020 has brought to us, we can stay strong and prepare for 2021. At this point, I think we are all aware that our lives have changed forever. We are more aware of how the government works, and I think we should all get more involved in politics and actually speak more.

Change Your Mind and The Rest Will Follow

Change has a very negative connotation for most people. On a deep emotional level, we are creatures of comfort, and we automatically seek out that which feels good at the moment. We long for comfort, and this usually comes from that which we know; that which is familiar to us. Once we can comfortably deal with and “know” all the “unknowns” we can “relax” – because your nervous system and your mind are designed to find and attach a meaning(s) to everything. Therefore something new is always a confrontation between that which is and that which will be in your mind.

The unknown is always something that your mind and your nervous system have to “unravel” afresh, and this very process feels uncomfortable on many levels. When something becomes comfortable, you get used to it as you remove all the “unknowns” and your automatic behaviour can take over again. Our nervous system works primarily by conditioning, and by repetition, we notice and assume consistent patterns. This system is really there to serve us in helping us be more efficient and to be able to do more, more efficiently.

Your mind is designed to always look for the best way. Through repetition, we learn certain orders and sequences in which things happen, and we learn to recognize and respond according to these sequences. Every emotion you experience, for instance, is nothing but the result of a sequence of events and reactions triggered by your unconscious awareness that generates and creates the actual feeling which is nothing but a sensation in your nervous system.

To Change Anything

To change anything, you must first of all, become aware of these patterns. It will help if you become aware of what goes on under the surface of your conscious awareness. This is not difficult, and everybody can do this. You need not understand everything about the human nervous system to use it. Be aware of the fact that there is a part of you that responds and acts “automatically” based on your past experiences and associations. The challenge is to go from one pattern, one that does not serve you, to one which does. You quite literally would have to change your mind in that you have to change the way you perceive yourself and your life. Doing things differently will feel uncomfortable at first. Still, you can rest assured that the “uncomfortable” will become “comfortable” as you start to form new associations and new patterns of association.

The process of making the “uncomfortable” comfortable or making the “unknown” known is the way we grow as human beings. What you are comfortable with represents your comfort zone which includes all the experiences that you can comfortably deal with. If you don’t expand this “zone”, then you won’t expand yourself as a person. The need to grow and become more as a person is a deep emotional need that all humans have. Without growth, you won’t be happy.

All growth, although it feels uncomfortable in the moment always feels immensely fulfilling in the long term, and it is this feeling that we all really crave for; the feeling that we call “good”. You can do something that feels comfortable and “good” at the moment by staying with what you know, but true fulfilment comes from pushing beyond your comfort zone and creating a sense of pride in yourself. Growth means change and change involves risk and risk is the process of stepping from the known to the unknown.

Life is a Process of Change

The truth is that all of life is constantly in the process of change. Nothing ever stays the same. It is the nature of all of life, including you. Even if you do nothing, life will still change. For you to progress, you have to decide to initiate and create the change consciously. You have to consciously put yourself in the uncomfortable place where you can grow and as you do this you progress. Progress is by choice, while change is automatic. To be in control of your life, you have to consciously choose to change and to keep changing yourself to become the person you want to be.

All change starts with a change of mind. You have to start by changing your thoughts about want you want to change. In changing the way, you think about something, you immediately change your perception and consequently the way you feel about it. When you change the way, you feel you change your behaviour, and that is how you progress. Constantly trying to change behaviour will rarely create long term and lasting change. Change your mind, and the rest will follow! If you don’t change then, you won’t grow, and if you don’t grow, you are not really living.

This is the last post for Blogtober. I hope you have enjoyed it as much as I have.

Don’t forget to check out LSW MIND CARDS. They have just launched their Mind Cards Kids Edition, and my daughter loves them. She reads one every morning before school to help motivate her. I am sure you will love them too.

 

By the way, What do y’all think about my new theme?

Share your thoughts in the comments.

Talk soon

 

 

25 Comments

  • Britt K

    This is great advice. There were SOO many changes thrown our way throughout 2020. Almost every aspect of our lives was impacted – social time with friends, healthcare concerns, ability to visit with older family members, education, recreational activities, etc. In the beginning, we all thought that it was short-lived, yet here we are. I don’t know what 2021 will bring but I’m choosing to adopt a mindset that’s willing to roll with the situation rather than trying to fight it. I can choose constant negativity or I can choose to find the bright side of the cards we’ve been dealt.

  • Clarice

    I agree with you that our lives have changed forever and that we must stay strong and prepared for the coming year. There is no promise that 2021 will be better but I guess it is important that we learn our lessons. I also agree with you that change starts with a change of mind and thus, we should have a change of mindset as we welcome the new year ahead.

  • Erica (The Prepping Wife)

    Life is hard for two reasons: because you’re leaving your comfort zone or you’re staying in it. Personally, I like living outside my comfort zone. Sounds funny, right? I’ve found that is where the most growth happens, and it really is worth it. Without venturing outside my comfort zone, I wouldn’t be achieving the amazing things I am.

  • Tisanke Joy Simasiku

    I love this article and I really enjoyed it. You’re right, it all begins in the mind. They say what gets your mind, gets you and has power over you.
    If positivity has your mind, your whole world will be positive and beautiful regardless of the circumstances.
    Thank you for sharing

  • Alyssa

    This makes total sense. When I read self-help books, they either change my life or they took up about 12 hours of my time. The difference, I’ve noticed, is whether or not grasp and completely accept what the book has to say. So, your “Change your mind and the rest will follow,” fits perfectly. Thank you for helping demystify that for me <3

  • Lene

    Love the new look — so light and airy! And yes. We have to change the way we think in order to change the way we react. And, I have found, the more you change the way you act, the faster you change how you think. (Sorry for the Saturday morning philosophy;) )

  • Bri

    The mind can do amazing things when you want it to. You can literally “rewire” it yourself to change your perception if you really want to. The world changes, you perceive it, adapt to it and then continue to do so. That is life, like you said.

    • Gervin Khan

      I have a good time reading this article. Yes, I agree that when you hear the word change is has a negative meaning to other people but if you were able to analyze it you will realize that this change is for our own good.
      Change is already part of our lives and what we can do about it is to change our mind and adapt it.

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