Becoming A Single Parent. Hello everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing a reflection on becoming a single parent. I have heard many stories from women with 2 or 3 kids who have recently divorced or the other partner had left and had become a single parent. This is very heartbreaking, but it is the reality. Sadly, having children always seems to be the reason things don’t work when you’re dating or married. It really shouldn’t be like that. In other words, if your marriage or relationship was stable before the kids, why should it end after the children?
Becoming A Single Parent
Sometimes A Breakup Is A Blessing
Let’s face it, raising children is hard work, mentally and physically. A lot of things change in your personality. You are not the same person as you were before you had children. Your insecurities and lack of confidence will grow to a new level that nobody will ever understand.
When I was pregnant, my partner and I were very excited about it, but we hardly knew each other well enough to raise a child together. The pregnancy was too fast – I fell pregnant one month after we got together. Although we tried to work it out, there was a lot of negative energy around us, and we collapsed when I was three months pregnant.
It was heartbreaking when we broke up, but now, I am happy we broke up. Imagine the hell I would have gone through. Sometimes it’s good to look at the positive side of a breakup. Blaming yourself and hating on the other partner will not help at all.
Revenge Is Sweet
Raising your children and working hard to achieve your goal is the only revenge you will ever get as a single parent. You do this by grabbing all the support that is available to you. Your ex-partner will have a lot of regrets and feel useless that he left you and his children. He might even want to be in their life. After all, he left a beautiful, already made family for someone else.
Single Parent Advice
My advice is to take a chill pill. It is a vast transition from having a partner to support – being all alone with children. This is why believing in yourself and taking all the proper support is essential. It will help if you put your ego and selfish attitude aside. Things are different now as you have children as a no1 priority. You will be fine if you put your children first before anything else.
If you are or know anyone who may be going through that is going through a similar situation, I hope this post has helped. You must understand that we are all humans and can only do our best based on experiences. Sometimes life does what life wants, and nothing can be done other than rolling with it.
I hope you enjoyed that.