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Becoming A Single Parent

Becoming A Single Parent. Hey guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I want to talk about becoming a single parent. I have heard a lot of stories from women with 2 or 3 kids, who have recently divorced or the other partner had left and had become a single parent. This is very heartbreaking but it is the reality. Alot of the times when your dating or married, sadly having children always seems to be the reason why things don’t work. It really shouldn’t be like that. In other words, if your marriage or relationship was very strong before kids then why should it end after children?

Sometimes A Breakup Is A Blessing

Let’s face it raising children is hard work, mentally and physically. A lot of things changes in your personality. You are not the same person as you were before you had children. Your insecurities and lack of confidence will grow high to a whole new level of which you nobody will ever understand.

I remember when I was pregnant, my partner and I were very excited about it but we hardly knew each other well enough to raise a child together. The pregnancy was too fast – I feel pregnant 1 month after we got together. Although we tried to work it out, there was a lot of negative energy around us and we collapsed when I was 3 months pregnant.

It was very heartbreaking when we break up, but now, I am happy we broke up then. Imagine the hell I would have gone through. Sometimes it’s good to look at the positive side of a break-up. Blaming yourself and hating on the other partner is not going to help at all.

Revenge Is Sweet

Raising your children and working hard in achieving your goal is the only revenge you will ever get as a single parent.  You do this by grabbing all the support that is available to you. Your ex-partner will have a lot of regrets and feel useless that he left you and his children. He might even want to be in their life. After all, he left a beautiful already made family for someone else.

Single Parent Advice

My advice is to take a chill pill. It is a huge transitioning from having a partner to support – being all alone with children. This is why it is very important to believe in yourself and take all the right support that may be available to you. Your ego and selfish attitude should be put aside. Things are different now as you have children to be placed as a no1 priority. As long as you put your children first before anything else, you will be fine.

If you are or know anyone to maybe going through that are going through a similar situation, I hope this post has helped. You have to understand that we are all humans and we can only do our best based on experiences. Sometimes life just does what life wants and there’s nothing that can be done, other than rolling with it.

25 Comments

  • Katie Frazier

    Wow mama you seem so strong! I wish the best for you! Your kids will definitely realize that mama was a strong woman.

  • Debra Roberts

    Relationships are tough and while I admire when people “try to work it out”; the raw truth is, if you have to “try” and it’s not organic, it’s already over. We put too much pressure on ourselves to do what is perceived to be the admirable thing, we lose all sense of who we are in the process.

  • Luna S

    This was well written. It is a bummer things didn’t work out but as you said sometimes it is for the best overall not only for you but for the child as well.

  • Clio

    I love your honesty when describing the whole situation, and I believe it can inspire and support other women in the same situation. Raising kids does change how we see life and our perspective, and it is tiring and exhausting – yours was a brave choice and you’re giving a great example to your daughter!

  • Live Learn Better

    We live in a world where change is constant, and sometimes it is for our own good. Letting go of a toxic relationship is definitely a blessing and no matter how one sugarcoat it, there can never be progress in a chaotic situation.
    Wishing you all the very best.

  • Izzy

    That’s so true what you said about a partner regretting his decision to leave. My dad left us when we were 5 and 7, and I can tell he much much later has regrets. He wrote me that he wants all five of his daughters (from three marriages) at his 70th birthday party but I don’t know if I feel comfortable with that. I’m not angry, but it’s definitely weird for me. I do feel sorry for him, but he did leave and his regrets aren’t my fault. Single parents like my mom are superheroes. I’ll see what my mom says about it, I guess!
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  • Tracy @ Cleland Clan

    Toxic relationships are never good for children. The best gift you can give your child is a loving, stable home whether its with one parent or two– a home in which the other parent is never demeaned or criticized. Vent to your family and friends when your little one isn’t around if you need to, but not in his or her presence. You’ve got this!

  • Snehal

    Um I have a friend who got married then got pregnant then divorced. Now she is raising the child on her own. I would like to share this post with her. 🙂

  • Subhashish Roy

    It must be tough initially but really challenging and satisfying as you move ahead. As you mentioned, many a times it is a blessing. Best days ahead is my wish for you and the sweet little one.

  • KeshiaRichmond

    Interesting take on on single parenting. There are tremendous challenges to raising kids whether it is done with one or more parents. I’m sure there are people who will reasonate with your perspective.

  • Melody

    You have a beautiful daughter and she deserves to grow up in a happy, positive house. Do your best to provide that for her and you will both be rewarded even through the more difficult times. Best wishes for you both.

  • Nero

    One of my business partners is a single mom of 3 kids. She’s extremely strong and she left her husband for great reasons. She’s much happier now than before.

  • Scott J DeNicola

    It’s not good for the child to be in a family where there is unhappiness. You can only do your best and provide love. It isn’t easy but sometimes it is best. That baby is adorable by the way!

  • Elizabeth | Tired Mom Supermom

    I can’t even imagine. I guess the best thing to do is just take it one step at a time and try not to stress!

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