Are You Chasing the Elusive Butterfly of Happiness? Hey everyone, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I will be sharing n insight on this question – Are you chasing the Elusive butterfly of happiness? For many people, happiness is an elusive butterfly in the garden of life. Imagine a young child in the park on a summer day. The child sees a beautiful butterfly flitting from flower to flower.
With eyes of wonder, the child wants to see it close up, touch it, and hold it in their hands. The child goes towards the flower that the butterfly is resting on, with arms outstretched, only to find, as he gets in reach, the butterfly moves to another flower. Undeterred, the child follows the butterfly to the next flower and the next, but the butterfly always stays out of reach.
Are You Chasing The Elusive Butterfly Of Happiness?
As adults, happiness can seem like that butterfly, always out of reach. It becomes almost an obsession, and the words “if only…” become an increasingly large part of our thoughts and vocabulary. If only I had more money, I would be happy; if I were in a great relationship, I would be satisfied if I could have a different job. And the list goes on. Even if we achieve one of our “if only “desires, the happiness we seek is still just out of our reach.
The truth of the saying, “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”, becomes our focus and perception. If this becomes our focus, we find that dissatisfaction and unhappiness increasingly keep growing in our life and experience.
The unhappiness within us can not be completely satisfied by external events or circumstances. To find happiness in life, we must be internally at peace with ourselves. External events and circumstances can bring us joy at the moment, but they do not have a lasting effect on our inner self. Life experience brings a mixture of good and bad circumstances to everyone. To rely on life’s experiences for our source of happiness would mean living life on a constant emotional roller-coaster ride.
Happiness Comes From Within
The inner contentment that survives the roller coaster ride of life has its roots deep within our being. The source of happiness comes from finding and embracing who we are and living a life of purpose. We need to find peace in every aspect of our life- the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Discover acceptance, drive and stability in these areas will give a sense of completion in life.
If we neglect any of these areas, we experience a sense of emptiness and feel something is missing. There is no solid foundation for building happiness within, but we typically fill this incompleteness by looking for outside solutions. That is when we can fall into the ‘elusive butterfly’ syndrome and experience such frustration.
Is Happiness An Elusive Butterfly For You?
Spend some time in quiet reflection. Are you neglecting one of the four essential parts of who you are and experiencing a sense of emptiness within? The more you discover, embrace and accept your uniqueness and purpose, the more you will experience the butterfly of happiness alighting on your shoulder.
I hope you enjoyed that.
I am not chasing any more butterflies, I just finding happiness in myself.
Kathy Kenny Ngo
Thankfully, I no longer am. I’ve found my real happiness.
I completely agree with this, happiness comes from within! Embracing who we are and our purpose, is something that deserves priority in our lives.
Totally agree with you, happiness comes from within. Those are some great points to keep in mind and thanks for the share.
Emily Michelle Fata
While I generally do feel happy, I find that when I’m down, I’m chasing that elusive butterfly. Sometimes, I have to just let it be and it comes back to me.
Honestly, in general I’m happy. I have things I want to fix or change, but overall life isn’t terrible.
I am satisfied with whatever I have, but yes your points are good!
I think happiness is about being satisfied with what you have and seeing just how blessed you are. Imagining the possibilities is inevitable, but we sometimes need to think realistically.
Totally agree – it can be hard sometimes not appreciating the beauty that is around you and the things you have. My wife and I are trying to be better at appreciating all those things!