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Are You Afraid of Success?

Are  You Afraid of Success? Hey everyone, I hope you are well. Blogtober 2020 is really getting tough on me. I had to take the past week off. This challenge has been different because I don’t want to post a less quality topic. Trust me, and this is hard but I am loving every minute of it. I’m back with another LSW Mind Cards, and it is another Reflection card today.



Are You Afraid of Success?

It is well documented that many people fail to achieve their goals in life due to the phenomenon known as “fear of failure” but are you aware that a major factor that is often overlooked, is a state known as “fear of success”?

Fear of failure will lead many people into inertia – the inability to make a decision or take action in case they receive rejection or negative outcomes. This mental state is fairly easy to identify, and there are many tools in the personal development industry to help combat this plague and reprogram the mind for success. However, the fear of success is much more subtle, harder to spot and also harder to eradicate.

Perhaps you have this tendency in your life

Here are some indications of a fear of success mentality:

  • Studying and trying to implement self-improvement techniques and/or personal development tools, but your life does not improve or may even get worse.
  • You settle for less than you feel you deserve or are capable of achieving.
  • You start new projects full of enthusiasm and optimism but wane in your efforts or stop short before you have completed them.
  • You expect things to go wrong no matter how well the situation appears to be at the moment.

Can you identify your own patterns in the any of the above statements?

The fear of success can also make you behave in ways that hold you back. Look at the list below. These are the symptoms of the fear of success.

Procrastination

Putting off what needs to be done or not doing what you know will bring you closer to your desired result. Everyone suffers from this inner ‘demon’ at some point in their lives (although some of us suffer from it more than others!).

Procrastination is a ‘success killer’! How can you expect to reach your destination if you do not take steps towards it? Strive to do little things each day that will bring you small steps closer to your goal. This is why having a personal development plan is an essential ingredient in the fight against procrastination. Take action! Any action! Refine your steps as you go along but do not sit and do nothing. Taking action is one of the key aspects of personal development.

Can’t see the forest for the trees!

This is almost the opposite of procrastination but has the same effect on your personal development. The aforementioned saying is well known but have you ever given it real consideration?

Please don’t get caught up in your plan, believing that it is more important than the materialised goal! For many years I got caught in this trap. I started to think and act as though my plan was more important than my result and thus missed many opportunities to alter my path and reach my goals more quickly! Let go of your ego and allow the Universe to show you a quicker route to your goal. Remain flexible.

Thinking that the time is not right

Have you ever waited until the timing was perfect before starting a venture? Have you ever waited until you had more information on a better plan?

Again ACTION is the key to the door to success. Taking small steps forward are better than taking none or waiting to see if your foot is landing on the right spot! Even if your actions take you away from your goal, you have at least gained insight and knowledge about what does not work!

Being a perfectionist

This is similar to the point above and has the same effect, namely, that you never really move forward. No matter how good a job is when it is finished, it can always be improved! I have heard many great musicians tell how they hate listening to their own songs because they can find a million things that need to be improved. Yet, we still enjoy them. I think a classic example of this is “Bridge Over Troubled Water” by Paul Simon. This song is hauntingly beautiful, yet Mr Simon does not think it is good enough!

Seeing only problems

How do you use your focus? Do you constantly see only and all the problems involved? If you are this way inclined, it is pointless trying to change overnight! However, you can use this mindset to your advantage while you strive in your personal development to acquire an opportunistic frame of mind instead.

“How can you use seeing only problems to my advantage?” you say. “Easily” is my reply! Look at the problems and prepare a plan to deal with them. Every time you overcome one congratulate yourself. Use them as a gauge for your achievements. If you keep seeing more problems, remind yourself of how well you dealt with the others. Look at how far you have come! If you see a problem, ask yourself, “how best can I overcome this challenge?” or “how quickly can I rectify this situation?”. The quality of your questions is important as I have outlined in a previous article. Use the problems as fact finders. Is there a real problem now? If so then deal with it. Is it a potential problem? If so then create a contingency plan in case it does occur but don’t get caught up in it just be prepared.

Enjoy the journey, follow the above guidelines, and you will achieve success. Eventually, your fear of success will dissipate, and you will have moved a long way forward in your personal development.

I hope you enjoyed that.

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Talk soon

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14 Comments

  1. Great post! I was the person who was afraid of being good at something to achieve something etc, i didn’t think I can actually do that

  2. Woah. Honestly made a blogtober challenge too but got so busy! anyway, this is such a great post. I relate to it too much. Actually trying to start a small business but this fear of failure is also true. I’m going for it anyway!

  3. Great post! Fear is a major hindrance to success and to a general happy life. Thanks for the reminder here.

  4. Food for thought in here. I do tend to get distracted by new and shiny things. perhaps it’s time to finish a few projects before starting anything new.

  5. Fear can get in the way of being successful. Such a great post

  6. I think “the time isn’t right” is the trap far too many people fall into. They sit and wait for that “perfect” time, but the problem is that it never happens. There will never, ever be a perfect time for anything. It takes a leap of faith to do something big, not just waiting for the opportunity to jump in front of someone. They don’t realize that they will be waiting forever, and that greatness they’ve wanted so badly will never come. I see that a lot in blogging groups, actually. People talking about waiting for the right time.

  7. I’ve definitely felt some of these things in the past which has kept me from progressing in my career. Facing our fears is the key to success

  8. This is so true! Ultimately you are the only person to blame if you don’t go after your dreams and goals. I always try to live life to the fullest and go after what I want because it’s too short to not be happy.

  9. I’m a perfectionist and have to constantly remind myself that done is better than perfect.

    1. Subhashish Roy says:

      The fear of failure is the reason many procrastinate and they never move forward. This is such a thought provoking post and reading it made me go back to my younger days and many such thoughts and apprehensions that I had faced.

  10. Great read, I can relate to a lot of this, but I more fear success because I’m afraid of the work load it will bring and I already lack time with my two kids. I do want it bad, however, it still scares me, lol

  11. This is so true. I recently stalled myself at the end of a great project – I got through it and was successful in the end but it was disturbingly hard to push myself through it! It was like after years of being a SAHM (and loving it), the leap to commit and succeed to something outside of my little arena was really scary. Less so the second time and I’m hoping even easier after that!

  12. I think often times we are a little scared when it comes to progression, and that is when fear steps in. I am learning that in order to achieve big things you have to go for it. Give it all that you got!

  13. Stangely I see many of these fears of success symptoms as being parallel to the sysmptoms of fear of failure. I think they may be a lot more alike then people think.

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