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5 Things Single Parents Family Should Do More

5 Things Single Parents Family Should Do More. Hey guys, I hope you are well. In today’s post, I am going to share with 5 things Single parents family should do more. As a single mum, I understand how challenging it is to raise a child. Trust me it isn’t easy. Sometimes you forget about the fun things because you are always worried about something. Sometimes we lack Self-Care because we forget about ourselves. And most times we say and do things that we don’t mean to say.

5 things Single Parents Family Should Do more

Talk

I feel this something every family must do. Married or single. Having regular family meetings should be part of the household. This is because it helps to discuss and understand what each other are going through and show some support. One thing Single parents fail to recognise sometimes is that the children are the one suffering the most.

Just because you are working up to 3 jobs, does not mean you are suffering. All you do is go to work and pay the bills. The children have to learn and do something they have never done before daily. They are exploring new things every day and trust me it is a very exhausting thing to do for a child. Instead of complaining or losing temper, try talking to them and listen to what they have to say.

Save

This is very important in every family household. Most especially in a single parents household. The truth is, it is very hard to save money in a single parent’s family. We work less, earn less but pay more. Even if we work more like 3 jobs we still pay more because the bills get higher. For example, I work part-time and pay for child care. If I work extra hours, I will have to pay more childcare because I am using more childcare services.

There is never financial balance in a single parent’s household. However, if we don’t save money, we will not have peace of mind. Everything will become more and more expensive each year. And the kids are growing too and very FAST. One minute, my daughter was crawling on the floor and trying to stand up. The next, she’s practising to become the next Usain Bolt in my living room. One minute she could not talk, the next she’s trying to tell me what to do.

Read

We all know that reading is a great way to develop both adult and children communication skills. It also helps with bonding and growing together as a family. Some parents are so busy with work, that they don’t notice anything, regarding their child. And it’s not their fault. I am one of the guilty ones. I had so much going on in my mind and failed to notice that my child can read and write her name.

I was so surprised and proud, at the same time – ashamed when I found out. From then on, I started buying more reading books for her and make sure we both do her homework together. So I can see what she can read and what she can’t. I think I will start taking her to the library too.

Play

My daughter has been asking me to play with her a lot lately, I think she’s feeling lonely. To the point, where she has asked me serval ties to get a boyfriend, so she can have a baby sister because I don’t play with her all the time. That breaks my heart because I felt she was happy when she plays alone. However, these are signs some parents fail to see. Loneliness is a bad thing. Single parents are lonely but remember your kids are lonely too. If you play together, you will both be stress- free. You will find out, you guy enjoy the same games, the same movies and laugh at the same jokes.

Yes, having friends are good but children enjoy playing with their parents more. Also, it will be great if you and the other parent play together as a family once in a while. Try adding that to your routine. You might have a routine already, where the other parent has the kids for the weekend. Even if it’s playing in the park, go to the cinemas, shopping, a holiday or even just a weekend away. Do something together, that way your child will not feel too insecure.

Plan

Planning for the future is extremely important. I mean, we all know the basic, kids grow and go to school while the parents start working. That is boring. You have to try to get more out of life. Planning for the future makes everything more clear for you and your family. It is better to plan with your children involved in it too. Asking them some questions about what their interest is and what do they want to do within the next 5 years or so will get them very excited for the future. You’d be surprised by the things they come up with. My daughter had recently told me she wants to become a rapper. I was like ‘ Are you Serious?’ Then she burst out laughing saying ‘Pranked you’.

Be sure to involve the other parent too. By doing this, you are making things easier for yourself. Your child will be happy to have both parents to be in the household together and planing things. It will also help boost their confidence in  I recently wrote The 5-year plan, where I talk about my plans for the next 5 years. Check it out.

I hope you enjoy this post. No matter what, please make your family a No. 1 Priority.

Talk soon.

18 Comments

  • Erica (The Prepping Wife)

    I don’t have kids of my own, so these aren’t issues for me personally. But I do know that being a single parent is not remotely easy because there is no safety net that comes with a second parent to help out with not only income, but time spent with little ones. But I do know from reading your blog, you are doing a great job as a single parent, even through the rough times. You have accomplished a ton and have a lot to be proud of. You definitely inspire other single parents out there and give them great advice.

  • Smita

    You’re a great parent, Sonia and your advice is always spot on! So agree with the point on talking – the only way to really understand what is going on in each other’s lives is by being frank and open.

  • Britt K

    I love this – skills and factors that should factor into every parent’s life, both single and two-parent households. It’s so easy to get caught up in the craziness of life and miss out on the important things. Kids grow up WAY too fast… don’t miss out on the time together. Simply planning time to play with one another, read together, etc. will allow you to take a step back from the ‘responsibility’ and genuinely enjoy this stage in your child’s life.

  • Melanie williams

    I do not have any kids, so this is not relevant for me. I am sure those with kids would find this useful though

  • Stephanie S

    This is such a great list of things single parent families should do. I think it is important to play, read, and just be together as much as possible. Honestly for any family I think all of these things are very important. Thank you so much for sharing this.

  • Alexandra

    These are some good points. And you are right in that we can often get so caught up in how hard it is for us to be a single parent that we often neglect or minimize what our kids are going through. It’s really a tough balance for sure!

  • s

    Planning is so very important for the future of the child anyways. But then a single parent probably has to give it extra importance as they no one to fall back on.Education is costly these days and if the child wants to do further studies after graduation, the costs could be really prohibitive.

  • Scott DeNicola

    These are great points for a single parent or both parents. We can never talk to our children enough. I see the importance of this even more so now as my youngest is in high school and facing all the perils and drama that goes with it. We like to talk about our days at dinner and go around the table with one thing that was the best part and one that was the worst part of your day. And the answer can’t be the same every day. You’re not getting off that easy. I will say as busy as I was with work I always made time to play with my girls each and every day/night. Saving money is a whole different battle for sure and one I am still working on.

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