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5 Challenges Of A Single Mum

5 Challenges of a single mum. Hey guys, I hope you are all well. In today’s post, I am going to talk about 5 challenges I have had to face as a single mother. I hope you can relate and if you have other challenges to add, please comment below. I would love to read them.

Challenges of a Single mum: Isolation

Before I had my daughter, I was living my life independently, – working very hard, having nights out, paid my own bills. However, when Sasha was born everything ended. I lost my job, no more night out, no more friends, etc. Just stayed at home (at least for the first 2-3 years).

The first few years was stressful because I was a first -time mum. I spent most days and nights crying my eyes out because I could not go anywhere without taking her with me, even if it was to go to the shops for a bottle of milk or bread. I always have to take her with me.

Sometimes you just go out for a walk, but the process of getting her ready, making sure she’s warm, the crying and the looks people gives you in public places, it became overwhelming, and made me want to just stay at home. Although there are mother’s club etc available, still you wouldn’t go because there will be ‘competition’ mums who feel they have all the answers to your problems.

Decision Making

This could be anything like, which extra activities should she get involved? Which school was right for her? Or what product should you be using on your child? I have spent so much money and time trying to find what is the best choice for my daughter. At the end of the day, she’s mine, her happiness depends on me.

I remember when she was ill, coughing, up all night and I had tried everything I could to help her and nothing seems to be working. I just decided to call the ambulance and by the time they came, she was fine. You should have seen the looks on their faces.

Lacking Self-Care

Most single mums do not have their shower for 3 days a week straight. Or had a nice home-cooked meal for a whole week. It’s really that hard. You just wouldn’t have the time to think about yourself. Everything you do from the moment you wake up is attending to your baby. Even when the baby is sleeping, you wouldn’t be able to have a shower because you are either napping too or just thinking about the what to do next, what’s for dinner, quietly tidying up the house etc. You just completely forget about yourself or taking a shower.

Discipline

Sasha was a good baby. However, when she was about 2 – 3 years old, I saw a new side of her development (Terrible Twos). She started crying a lot, making a mess everywhere. I turn around for 5 secs and she’s up to something. Can someone please explain how kids are able to think and act that fast? Talking about it now just makes me smile and laugh. How upset I use to get? I used to think I was doing something wrong because when she goes to grandma’s, she’s well behaved but not at home. Maybe I was not giving her enough love, I asked for advice from doctors, mums chat groups etc. I actually thought it was my fault this was happening. Everywhere I turned people said it’s normal.

Challenges of a Single mum: Limitation

Yes, parenting is THE only most difficult and rewarding job anyone could do. It is also the most terrifying thing that scares everyone. However, you must remember that being a parent is a part of your life. It’s not all of it. You can do still achieve your dreams etc. Having a child pretty much means you just have to work around her. Your child comes first and above anything else. There is just little you can do but one thing I have learnt is that you can not make everyone happy.

23 Comments

  • Sara Green

    I don’t know what it feels like to be a single mom, but with a husband that works over 100 hours a week, I can empathize with single moms. At the end of the day, I do have someone that I can rely on and help. I couldn’t imagine doing this alone, although as moms, when we are faced with that or any situation, we do it because we have too. Thank you for sharing.

  • Betsy Carter

    I can only imagine how challenging it must be to be a single parent. She’s so blessed to have you as her Mama; it’s inspiring how you put her first, don’t forget to make time to take care of you. It’s not selfish; it’s a healthy way for you to recharge and reset so that you can continue being the best Mama to her. : )

  • Alexandra

    My challenge is going to the doctors or another appointment that is just for one kid. I have 3 boys and when one has a class or doctor’s appointment I have lug all three. And my youngest always has a meltdown and yet I have to be there to talk to the doctor so I can’t just take him outside.

  • Laura

    I was a single mom for a few years. It was tough but also some of the most special times I have had with my kids. I was fortunate enough to have a lot of support though. It can be so hard if yo don’t have that.

  • Despite Pain

    It must be such a huge adjustment going from a single person, enjoying work and social life to becoming a mother. It can’t be easy for two parents working together, but as a single mother, it must be extra difficult. But, as you said, despite the difficulties, parenting must be so rewarding.

  • Lene Andersen

    I have had friends and family members who have been and still are single mothers. Watching them battle their way through it is awe-inspiring and slightly terrifying, too. Would you be able to find a support system of other single moms? I know the problem with that is but you have to be able to leave the house, but…

  • Clarice

    This is the reason why I have high respect for single moms. It is not easy but their love for their child powers them to give their best. Thank you for sharing about this. Shared this to other single mom friends who are going through the same. 🙂

  • Clarice

    This is the reason why I have high respect for single moms. It is not easy but their love for their child powers them to give their best. Thank you for sharing about this. Shared this to other single mom friends who are going through the same.

  • Tiffani

    After watching what my mom went through as a single mom with two little girls. I have the upmost respect and admiration for her. She and the many others are simply rockstars!!

  • Flossie McCowald

    Honestly I don’t know how single parents do it – my hat is off to you and to all of them. I have a hard enough time coparenting with my husband; even with the two of us we’re stretched super-thin, and I cannot imagine if there were only one of us doing the job. Hang in there!

    • Carol

      Being a single Mom is tough. You’re also trying to fill the role of both parents. A great support system, so you can have a few hours to yourself, can make all the difference.

  • Heena

    It is tough job being a mom but being a single mom is way to challenging. Have faith in your self. You are strong enough to take care of your kid and yourself.
    Heena

  • Kris

    I have no idea what it feels like to be a single mom but your post made me realize how challenging it truly must be. Being a mother is hard itself, and being the only parent must really be tough. You’re doing a great job! I really admire you.

  • Elicit Folio

    Very eye-opening article about the sacrifices moms make to ensure their babies are cared for. A woman’s job is never done, but should be celebrated more than what it is!

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